Everyone fails: sometimes, despite what business owners and social media say

If you were brave enough to start your own enterprise, even if it stalls, you deserve to be celebrated and supported. The moment you decided to set up your own company, launch your own product, or retrain into something entirely new, you did something most people only ever dream about. You took the leap.
That alone deserves to be championed.

The transatlantic divide nobody talks about

In the United States, failure is practically a badge of honour. You set up, you fall, you get back up, you go again. It’s considered standard entrepreneurial practice—expected, even respected. People talk about it openly over coffee. “Yeah, my first two businesses didn’t work out.” Said with a shrug and a smile. Because over there, failure means you’re seasoned. It means you can be trusted.

In the UK? We go quiet.

Mistakes are embarrassing, and your business closing feels like the end of it. We certainly don’t shout about it. We close the door, dust ourselves down, and carry on without ever letting on how close we came to losing it all.

And that silence? It costs us. It costs the founders coming up behind us who think they’re the only ones struggling.

The social media lie

Scroll through LinkedIn or Instagram for five minutes and you’ll see it—the founder who just sold for eight figures, the entrepreneur living their “dream lifestyle,” the perfectly curated journey from nothing to everything.

But is it true? Is it the whole picture?

Because what you don’t see is the 3am panic, and the fact they had no salary for a year. The month the salaries went on a credit card. The argument with a partner who’s scared about losing the house. The morning you sat in your car before going into the office and genuinely didn’t know how you were going to get through the day. The eight-figure exit with £8 million turnover, actually only paying out £10,000.

Social media shows you the highlight reel of someone else’s life and quietly makes you feel like you’re failing at your own. I’m not that successful. Maybe I should give up. Maybe I’m just not cut out for this.

Sound familiar?

It should. Because almost every founder has been there. They just didn’t post openly about it.

My truth

I’ll be honest with you, because I think honesty is the only thing that actually helps.

There were times I put salaries on a credit card and genuinely thought I was going to lose everything. During COVID, I watched a situation completely outside my control threaten to take down a business that was doing well. I questioned whether I was a good enough parent because I wasn’t spending enough time with my son. I wondered if I should just walk away from all of it. Those doubts? They don’t arrive once and leave. They come back. They evolve. They show up in different forms at different times—and they will for you too.

But here’s what I know: if I hadn’t tried, I would be angrier at myself for never knowing than I ever was during the hardest moments. Resilience was key—tough, but I love what I do. I would rather have fought, struggled, and questioned everything than spend the rest of my life wondering, could I have done it?

That question—could I?—is the one that keeps us going. There are going to be highs and lows; failure and resilience; a change in tactics—but one day, hopefully, success.

What to do when it gets dark

Because it will.

So here’s what actually helps:

Get honest with your inner circle. Not performatively truthful—actually honest. Find one or two people who will sit with you in the mess without trying to immediately fix it or minimise it. Your support network isn’t a nice-to-have. It’s survival.

Separate the business problem from your identity. A cash flow crisis doesn’t mean you are a failure. A lost client doesn’t mean you were wrong to try. The business is something you are building—it is not who you are.

Ask yourself the right questions. Not “am I failing?” but: is this the right journey for me? Am I on the right track, or should I change? What do I want? And critically, what’s my contingency plan if this doesn’t work? Having an answer to that last one takes away so much of the fear.

Talk to someone who’s been through it. A mentor, a peer group, a founder community. Not for advice necessarily—just for the reminder that someone else sat exactly where you’re sitting and came out the other side. Remember why you started.

The honest truth about failure

I believe most founders—regardless of gender, background, or where they are in their journey—fear failure. I’d be surprised if anyone told me otherwise. But fear and failure are not the same thing. Trying and not succeeding is not failure. Giving up before you’ve given yourself a real chance, without ever knowing what might have been—that’s the thing most likely to haunt you. It would be me.

What’s your experience? Have you ever come close to giving up—and what kept you going? Share it. Someone out there needs to read exactly what you’ve been through.

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