Op-Ed: Kandi, Todd, And The Reality Of What Successful Women Often Endure In Marriage
If the news of Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker divorcing wasn’t already sad enough, it looks like things between the two could take a complicated turn. Per Us Weekly, while […] The post Op-Ed: Kandi, Todd, And The Reality Of What Successful Women Often Endure In Marriage appeared first on Essence.
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Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker at “The Wiz” Pre-Broadway L.A. premiere held at the Hollywood Pantages Theatre on February 14, 2024 in Los Angeles, California. (Photo by Lisa O’Connor/Variety via Getty Images) 
By Victoria Uwumarogie ·Updated December 2, 2025 < /> Getting your Trinity Audio player ready… If the news of Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker divorcing wasn’t already sad enough, it looks like things between the two could take a complicated turn.
Per Us Weekly, while we were all getting ready for Thanksgiving dinner last Wednesday, Tucker was responding to Burruss’s divorce petition, and requested primary custody of their two children, @realrealityclipss
Another passive aggressive way to say Kandi was not catering to him. Now there’s nothing wrong with just saying that but the way he communicates is very manipulative. If you continue to watch the video, you’ll see he gets caught in his argument and gets emotionally flustered.#kandiburruss #divorce #toddtucker #kandi
♬ original sound – Real Reality ClipsAnother example was his strong feelings about a woman on Burruss’s team being gifted an expensive piece of jewelry by a man she considered a friend, whom she had not been intimate with.
“That’s stupid as f–k,” he replied. “He’s your friend, you don’t desrve a tennis bracelet. What have you done for a tennis bracelet?”
@realrealityclipssIs a tennis bracelet a bad gift?#todd #toddtucker #kandi #kandiburruss
♬ original sound – Real Reality ClipsSpeaking of showing appreciation and interest, in another clip, he noted behaviors that were indicative of top-tier treatment, and what’s not:
“We chillin, you don’t pour a ni–a no drink, you don’t offer no meal, no sandwich…”
In the clips surfacing, specificially on TikTok, Tucker shares viewpoints regarding how women should show up for men. His belief is that just as some women see themselves as the prize, hell, so does he. If her single friends wanted to be taken seriously, they needed to cater. It didn’t matter what they had going on. But how does that mindset translate within a marriage? Especially if you’re the very successful, very ambitious and very wealthy wife of a man who thinks like this?
None of this is to demonize Tucker, for the record. But I do think that after watching him on Real Housewives of Atlanta for years being called out by Mama Joyce, the Old Lady Gang, and others close to the star, my sym target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">quietly divorced Iman Shumpert in 2023, it was made public, to her dismay, that she found him to be “jealous” and insecure about her fame. Despite him making more when they met while he was playing in the NBA, by 2020, that careerrel="tag">black celebrity couples Kandi Burruss op-ed Todd Tucker
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